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20+ Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling

A friend sent me a text asking how I practice minimalism when homeschooling. 

I thought this was such a great question to answer in a post. 

Minimalism is so second nature to me at this point that I don't pause to think about just how many ways our family does incorporate it into learning.

Here are 20+ Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling that have worked for us over the years.

20+ Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling

20+ Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling


Our family embraces Montessori and minimalism.

The first 10+ tips on this list are related to our Montessori homeschooling experience, but can be applied to any method of learning.

Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling Using the Montessori Method


1. Use clear glass and/or plastic containers.


In a Montessori classroom containers are used to store materials on trays for children to use. 

It can be very easy to purchase all types of containers in every color for every season and holiday.


20+ Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling: Use Clear Glass or Plastic Containers


Clear glass containers can work any time of year.

When using clear containers, the work is the decor and becomes appealing to the child. 

When beautiful work is used, the children will be attracted to it.

Containers can be used in all classroom settings, not just Montessori. Choosing clear containers always provides more flexibility of use and saves space.


2. Use natural wood or metal trays.


In a Montessori preschool and in some elementary classrooms, work is stored on trays in the classroom.

It can be easy to want to purchase various types of trays in multiple colors and designs.

20+ Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling: Use simple wooden trays

Simple wooden and metal trays can be used with any unit, season, and or holiday. 

When trays can be used again and again, you need less of them. 

The beauty comes from the work on the tray, which is then inviting to the child.

In classrooms that are not Montessori, it can be easy to want decor and storage in multiple colors and designs. 

Choosing simple and basic decor and storage, provides opportunities for less in the future.


3. Create one tray of each work for children to share and take turns with. 


In a Montessori classroom trays of work are created for children to use while learning. 

In some cases multiple trays with the same or similar activities are created.

This is unnecessary, especially in a homeschool environment.

Create one activity that can be rotated and shared by all in the classroom.

Rotating work means less to store and less materials used.

This principle of taking turns and sharing work can be applied to many forms of learning.


4. Use sheet protectors or laminating paper to ensure paper materials can be used again and again.


In all learning environments, paper materials last so much longer when protected by a plastic surface.

We tend to use laminating paper or sheet protectors

They can be shared.


20+ Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling: Use White Board Markers


Instead of using pencils and pens, consider crayons and markers for white boards.

They work very well with sheet protectors and laminating paper.


5. Only purchase materials your child is ready for and shows an interest in.


When using the Montessori Method there are a lot of materials you can collect over time. 

Each child is different, developing at a different pace, which means not all children will use every single material, especially in a home school environment.

When homeschooling, only order Montessori items related to subjects and themes your child is interested in and ready to pursue.

This principle can also be applied to non Montessori classroom settings. 

If the child isn't showing interest and basic skill sets necessary to use a material, don't purchase it.


6. Use a Montessori Binder if storage and shelfing are not available.


In a Montessori learning environment there are often shelves filled with Montessori materials and work activities.


You don't need shelves at all.

If you have very little space for storage of learning materials or want to minimize space you're using, consider a Montessori Binder.

How to Create a Montessori Binder



We used this method with our youngest as she couldn't handle the overwhelm of so many shelves with materials and work activities.

It worked beautifully.

A homeschooling binder can be helpful in all homeschooling settings, not just Montessori.

7. Reuse household items as markers and counters in activities. 


In a Montessori classroom so many tiny items are used as markers and counters.

This can also be true in homeschool settings that aren't Montessori. 

Instead of collecting so many items, utilize items you have around your home already. 

This can mean reusing bottle caps, tiny toys, or other objects.


8. Thrift shop for trays, baskets, containers and other items.


Montessori and other homeschooling methods can be extremely expensive, especially as you try to obtain all items that others feel are necessary to be successful.

The truth is with any homeschooling method, you can save a ton of money by being thrifty. 

Visit your local Salvation Army or other second hand store. 

Trays, baskets, containers, and other items are so much cheaper.

Books and learning games can be so inexpensive when you're willing to be thrifty.

9. Minimize shelving by rotating items more frequently.


In a Montessori classroom, work activities and materials are stored on shelves in the classroom. 

You can minimize how many shelves you need by choosing to rotate items more frequently in your homeschool environment. 

Through observation you will know just how many work activities and materials work best for your child.

In non Montessori learning settings, this technique can also be applied.

Only keep out what your child will use for a specific period of time and then rotate learning resources.

This can be so beneficial to children, especially those with anxiety and who become distracted or overwhelmed easily.

10. Use smaller, more compact versions of materials when possible and when available.


No matter what method of learning you choose for your children, there are items that are large and bulky.

In many cases, smaller versions of these materials may be available.

We have created multiple paper versions of larger Montessori materials to help with this issue. 

Montessori Telling Time: Parts of a Clock Printable Pack




Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling Regarding Documentation & Storage


1. Take pictures of favorite projects and store digitally.


I must confess, I really don't keep much of anything when it comes to school work and art projects, unless they're purposeful. 

Instead, I take pictures and store them digitally.

It is super easy to take a picture using a phone these days. 

If a child or adult wants to remember a project, take a picture and say goodbye to the actual project itself.

There may be some very special papers and art projects that you don't want to part with. 

In those cases, put them on display or store them in a portfolio.


2. Create a portfolio of best work in each subject area.


All of my kids have a portfolio that they keep in their rooms.

The portfolio is used to store their best and most favorite school work.

20+ Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling: Keep Portfolio of Best Work

They use a simple three ring binder and remove work when the binder becomes too full.

Photos of larger work can also be stored in the binder.

I love that this portfolio is a reminder of their greatest learning accomplishments and can be shared with anyone they want to.


3. Rotate out books from local libraries.


It is incredibly rare that I purchase books for learning.

Instead I use our local library system.

One does not need to own books and create a library at home. 

Use local libraries and other online resources.

Rotate books out each week or month depending on your needs.

Library books can be used for all ages, which saves you money and space.


4. Set a limit for maximum storage capacity when it comes to learning materials and stick to it.


I have a very small amount of storage space in my home, which means it's extremely important that I set limits on how much stuff I'm going to own and keep.

There is no room for more storage bins.

And even if there was, I would not want to add more stuff to our home.

I use the storage bins I have, and only those.

If storage bins or spaces are at maximum capacity, instead of buying more storage items, I sort through and get rid of items to make room for new ones.

I can't begin to express how much this helps me stay organized.


5. Remember you don't need everything, just the basics will work just fine.


It can be so easy to want everything to enhance the learning experience.

But the truth is more stuff means more overwhelm during the learning process.

When I'm in a mood to buy learning materials, I always find the same set of rules.

If I can't figure out how to use an item in a way that benefits my children, I won't buy it.

If I can think of how to use the item I move onto my next rule.

Where am I going to store the item when not in use?

If I can't think of a place to store the item, I don't buy it. 

If I can think of a place to store it, I move on to my third rule.

Next I ask myself if I can use the item more than once.

If I can't use it more than once, I don't buy it.

Items that pass all three screening rules or questions, I choose to buy.

If the item is an online purchase, I wait until the next day to make the purchase, to see if I feel the same way about it.


Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling Regarding School Work


1. Only create art that is purposeful.


Arts and crafts can create a lot of extra stuff lying around.

In our home, I try to only choose art and craft projects that are purposeful and can be used.

If the final product isn't going to be used in some way, I don't choose the activity.

Sunshine loves to decorate her room.


Valentine's Day Crafts for Kids

Valentine's Day Crafts for Kids


So many of her arts and crafts projects are ways she chooses to do so that are FREE.

She also loves to accessorize. 

Other arts and crafts projects are related to making more accessories for her to wear and enjoy.

At times she may see an arts and crafts project that she wants to use as a toy or an object in imaginary play. 

In those situations I follow her lead, to ensure the final product will be used.


2. Utilize white boards to cut down on paper use.


In our classroom, we rarely ever use sheets of paper. 

The only times my kids use paper is for writing papers or taking tests (high school).

20+ Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling

Instead we utilize white boards and markers.

When the kids were young we'd also use crayons designed for white boards.

It is incredible how much money and space is saved without the use of paper.

3. Share textbooks.


Now that the kids are in middle school and high school, text books are a part of learning.

Keeping with Montessori and minimalism principles, I only purchase one of each text book, even though three kids are using them.

A small shelf stores textbooks. 

When one of the kids finishes using one, he puts it back, so the next person can use it. 

This practice saves us so much money and space.

4. Use only a notebook and folder for each subject.


Ever since the kids were able to write and take notes, they use one notebook and one folder for each subject. 

20+ Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling: Use Notebooks

Bulldozer tends to only use one folder total as it takes too much effort to sort them out by subject.

Utilizing notebooks and folders is a great reminder to me not to use extra paper unless absolutely necessary.

All of the kids work is done in their notebooks (unless on the computer) or on white boards.

The kids only have to keep track of their notebooks and folders.

We store them on a shelf in our dining room.

5. Laminate work task lists so the same one can be used by each child over and over again.


Before the kids were old enough to use planners, I provided task lists for them to keep track of their work.

Montessori-inspired Daily Tasks Checklist


Laminating these task lists helped so much in minimizing paper use. 

The kids could use white board markers to mark off their work, reusing the sheet everyday.


Ways to Practice Minimalism When Homeschooling Regarding Space


1. Minimize decor and visuals to a minimum.


In our homeschool learning environment, we rarely display items on the wall unless they are useful and purposeful like arts and crafts supplies, books from the library, a calendar, etc.

Montessori Homeschool Classroom Tour


This helps the kids focus with less distractions.

Minimizing decor also helps to elevate the work tasks in the classroom.

2. Learn where it's most comfortable to do so. 


Every child learns differently.

Some prefer a desk and chair.

Others prefer working on the floor.

My kids have always preferred the comfort of our living room couch.

You may need a designated space for storage of learning materials, but you don't necessarily need a space designated for learning. 

Use the spaces that you have that provide the most comfort for your kids.

As you can see, there are so many ways to practice minimalism when homeschooling, whether you choose to use Montessori or not.

Do what works best for you!

Minimalism in the classroom may look different for you than it does me.

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Santa Lucia Day Activities for Elementary Learners with Free Printables

Santa Lucia Day activities for elementary learners with free printables are the perfect way to celebrate the special holiday in the Montessori classroom at home or at school.

Santa Lucia Day is popular in Scandinavian countries but can be celebrated anywhere.

The special day is perfect to add to your holidays around the world studies, or can be introduced on its own.

Children are sure to love the activities and printables with true-to-life images below.

Santa Lucia Day is my girls' favorite day in our holidays around the world celebration.

They love these activities.


Santa Lucia Day Activities for Elementary Learners with Free Printables

Santa Lucia Day Activities for Elementary Learners with Free Printables


Santa Lucia Day Picture and Description Cards


Santa Lucia Day Picture and Description Cards

Children can learn all about Santa Lucia's Day with these nomenclature and descriptions cards. 

They can be used as traditional nomenclature cards or as a matching game.

Multiple options of the cards are available to fit the needs of all classrooms.

Source: I created the printable for this activity as part of my Santa Lucia's Day Printable Pack

Santa Lucia Day Writing Strips


Santa Lucia Day Writing Strips


Some children love nomenclature style activities while other children love writing. 


This activity is designed with the needs of all children in mind no matter their skills or abilities.


Children can practice writing the vocabulary words on the blank cards provided, using the control provided.


Those that struggle writing can trace the words to practice and promote correct letter formation.


Source: I created the printable for this activity as part of my Santa Lucia's Day Printable Pack


Santa Lucia Day Grammar Activity


Santa Lucia Day Grammar Activity

Grammar activities are quite popular with our children. 

In this activity children select a group of cards and grammar symbols.

They arrange the picture cards in order to create a sentence, using the control provided when necessary.

Children then arrange grammar symbols over or under pictures with words to label each part of the sentence. 

Controls for using grammar symbols are provided.

Source: I created the printable for this activity as part of my Santa Lucia's Day Printable Pack

FREE Santa Lucia Day Montessori Grammar Adjectives Activities


Santa Lucia Day Activities For Kids with Free Printables


To encourage more grammar practice, we have created FREE Santa Lucia Day Montessori Grammar and Adjective Activities.


Children have the choice of matching up pictures with words, or using clip cards provided, selecting which adjective goes with each noun related to Santa Lucia Day.


Source: We created the Santa Lucia Day Adjectives Printable Pack. It is a subscriber freebie. For your free copy follow the directions at the bottom of this post.


Santa Lucia Day Sentence Challenges


Santa Lucia Day Sentence Challenges


These sentence challenges are the perfect way to encourage spelling, grammar, and punctuation practice during the holiday season. 


Each sentence includes information about Santa Lucia's Day for children to enjoy.


Children can write the sentence correctly on the lined paper provided, using the control when necessary.


Source: I created the printable for this activity as part of my Santa Lucia's Day Printable Pack


Santa Lucia Day Multiplication Clip Cards


Santa Lucia Day Multiplication Clip Cards


Santa Lucia Day includes the enjoyment of saffron rolls and pepparkakor, Swedish gingerbread cookies. 

In this activity children multiply pepparkakor using the mini gingerbread cookies provided. 

Children then mark answers using the red beads provided. 

When using food in an activity I remind children that food is part of the activity and not for eating. 

Once the activity is complete I provide pepparkakor for the children to enjoy.

Some children cannot wait until the end of the activity.

In those cases, I provide pepparkakor to eat right away, then the child completes the activity.

Source: I created the printable for this activity as part of my Santa Lucia's Day Printable Pack

Santa Lucia Piano Piece


Santa Lucia Day Piano Activity


The last Santa Lucia activity I love introducing to elementary aged children is the Santa Lucia song. 


Children can label notes and practice playing the piece on the piano.


If students aren't familiar with reading music yet, you may consider introducing music notes using our Music Notes Printable Pack.


Source: I created the printable for this activity as part of my Santa Lucia's Day Printable Pack


Santa Lucia Day Activities for Tots and Preschoolers with Free Printables


Santa Lucia Day Activities for Tots and Preschoolers with Free Printables


If you're looking for more Montessori Santa Lucia Day Activities, be sure to check out our Santa Lucia Day Activities for Tots and Preschoolers with Free Printables!


Combining Santa Lucia Day Activities for elementary learners, preschoolers, and tots provides learning for every child in the classroom no matter their abilities.


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A Caregiver's Fears When Raising a Child with RAD

In four days, we have another Residential Treatment Team Meeting for our youngest adopted daughter with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), PTSD, Anxiety, ADHD, Autism, and a mood disorder.

I dread this meeting every month.

Her treatment team shares behavior counts for the last 30 days, which are always incredibly high.

The numbers themselves aren't shocking or surprising. 

It's the anxiety, fear, and instant trauma response that take over every time I hear them read that cripples me.

A caregiver's fears when raising a child with RAD are real!


A Caregiver's Fears When Raising a Child with RAD

 

Last month's residential behavior counts were so high.

What is a mother to think about these numbers?

How does a mother respond?

Any and every response is usually going to be based on fear.

Warning: This post is about behaviors related to Reactive Attachment Disorder and may be triggering to some. 

Important: Children with RAD are victims. It is our goal to support healthy and loving families where children with RAD can heal, if possible.


Worst Cases of Reactive Attachment Disorder

The Worst Cases of Reactive Attachment Disorder


That fear is so very real!


Fears of a Caregiver of a Child with Reactive Attachment Disorder


1. I fear that I won't ever be enough for my child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD).


A caregiver of a child with RAD may never feel like she is good enough. 

No matter what she does as a caregiver, it will feel wrong and likely won't be accepted by the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder.

RAD: Behavior and Consequences


In these scenarios, a caregiver may resort to trying anything and everything, including unhealthy and inappropriate parenting techniques, resulting in horrible consequences.

Another caregiver may give up and give in to the keep the peace, allowing the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder to run the show at home, putting everyone in the home at risk.

What Not to Do with a Child with Reactive Attachment Disorder


Many caregivers struggle with depression, because of the verbal, physical, and emotional abuse received by the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder.

Remember this is not the child's fault. This is how the RAD brain works.

When caregivers seek professional help, they are often blamed for their child's behaviors and made to feel that they are the problem.

The Realities of Reactive Attachment Disorder and Mental Health Therapy


This just causes caregivers to feel more hopeless.

An experienced and educated caregiver of a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder knows that typical parenting techniques don't work. 

A caregiver of a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder receives so much judgement from others as she becomes the parent her child needs.

At every turn a caregiver of a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder receives the message that she is not good enough.

To Be a Mother of a Young Child with RAD


The hardest reality is accepting that you may never be enough for your child with Reactive Attachment Disorder.

No matter how hard you try and how perfect of a parent you become, you cannot change the child's behaviors.

Only the child can do that, when she's ready.

You can only love them unconditionally no matter what.

2. I fear that others aren't taking care of my child with Reactive Attachment Disorder appropriately.


Whether a child with RAD attends day care, school, a day program, or residential, there's always a fear that others won't respond to behaviors appropriately, resulting in consequences for you as the caregiver.

A caregiver knows the negative working model that is always present in the brain of a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder and what that means for those who care for the child.

  • The caregiver extends unconditional love.
  • The child can't trust caregiver and pushes back hard, sometimes in dangerous ways, other times provoking caregivers.
  • The caregiver responds to behaviors in a negative way, at times similar to the child's original abuser.
  • The child with RAD's brain confirms that she cannot trust others.

It takes every fiber of a caregiver's being to NOT respond negatively to behaviors from a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder.

How to Stay Calm During a Reactive Attachment Disorder Fit


A lack of negative response may cause the child with RAD to push back and provoke in even more dangerous ways.

In situations where a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder is pushing back and provoking outside of the home, it is hard to trust that others will respond appropriately.

Everyone has a breaking point. 

A RAD child will test that breaking point.

How Do You Work with a Broken Mental Health System?


Very few have the training and experience a full time caregiver of a child with RAD has.

The fear of someone else harming your child with Reactive Attachment Disorder is real.

3. I fear my child will be kicked out of a program and I will be left to deal with behaviors, putting my family and myself at risk.


When a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder isn't displaying artificial charm, she may be testing every limit because she doesn't feel safe.

Environments, actions, words, and items that help other children feel safe, do not work with children who have Reactive Attachment Disorder.

Testing limits has no boundaries.

Until a child with RAD is capable and decides to heal from RAD, behaviors just become more severe over time.

Severe behaviors leave professionals at a loss.

The System Failed Us Horribly


There's only so much professionals can take, especially when behaviors are directed at them.

A day care center, after school program, classroom, day program, respite home, and residential facility can become unsafe because of the child with RAD.

Again, this is not the child's fault. This is the RAD brain.

It's in those moments that the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder is kicked out and the caregiver is left to pick up the pieces.

Behaviors are too severe in other settings, yet caregivers are often expected to bring the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder home exposing other children, your spouse, and caregivers to dangerous behaviors.

4. I fear I will be charged with endangering the welfare of my other children, when caring for a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder due to the severe behaviors that go along with that.


No healthy and loving caregiver wishes to put her children in harm's way. EVER. 

Caregivers strive to protect their children from all harm in every circumstance they can.

But what happens when one of your children is harming your other children?

Again, this is not the child's fault, but the RAD brain.

From the Mother of a Bully


How do you ensure that ALL of your children are safe?

Your first instinct may be to obtain help from professionals.

Sometimes that's enough.

But what about the times when it's not enough?

What do caregivers do when those professionals quit or kick a child out of programs because her behaviors are too severe?

4 Steps to Managing Aggressive Behaviors in Children


Caregivers are left on their own with no help or support, yet are still responsible for the safety of their family, and can be charged with endangering your children, when the child with RAD harms them.

5. I fear I will be charged with abandonment or abuse when trying to protect myself, spouse, and other children from my child with Reactive Attachment Disorder. 


There are laws that protect children from abusive and neglectful caregivers.

In most areas there are NOT laws that protect caregivers and siblings from an abusive child.

Abusive behaviors are not the fault of the child with RAD. 

A child with Reactive Attachment Disorder has been previously abused and/or neglected for a specific amount of time that alters the brain and its ability to attach and feel safe.

When raising a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder there are times when a caregiver has to intervene in a physical way to protect others in the household.

In some cases, caregivers may be faced with the decision to surrender their child with Reactive Attachment over to the state in order to obtain help.

Yes. You read that correctly!

In some cases, the ONLY way to obtain help outside of the home is by surrendering parental rights.

This may occur after a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder has been kicked out of multiple programs and residential placements etc.

This scenario may also occur in situations where other children in the home have been severely harmed by the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder and there is no other place for the child to go.

We at Every Star Is Different do not support surrendering parental rights. It's our goal to encourage healing when it's safe and possible.

Fleeing for Safety


No caregiver ever wishes any of this to happen. 

Yet in all of these cases, the caregiver is held accountable for the actions of the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder.

The entire family can be destroyed in these scenarios.

6. I fear that my child with Reactive Attachment Disorder will lie about caregivers in the home, causing false accusations and charges against us.


One symptom of Reactive Attachment Disorder is pathological lying. 

This is not the fault of the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder. Lying is part of how the RAD brain has learned to work to survive.

Reactive Attachment Disorder and Lying


Lying can be a fantastic tool when pushing back against caregivers who are attempting to attach.

It is also very common for a child with RAD, to share stories from their past, regarding abuse they received before coming to the current caregiver's home, and confusing the caregiver and abuser.

The effects of trauma are real. 

Even when an individual is completely safe, the brain believes the person is not.

Lies told by a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder can lead to significant damage to the family unit. 

At times a caregiver who is falsely accused may end up in jail.

This scenario is the nightmare of nightmares for a family who was trying their hardest to love a child who could not accept love.

7. I fear that my child with Reactive Attachment Disorder will severely harm a person in the home to the point that the person is unable to recover.


It is a fact that a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder targets family members.

There is always the chance that someone in the home will be harmed by a child with RAD.

Must Have Safety Resources When Raising a Child with Reactive Attachment Disorder


Caregivers must be at their best when it come to keeping others in the home safe, utilizing resources, obtaining help, and setting up safety plans.

The goal is to keep everyone safe, including the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder who is suffering.

It is not uncommon to require assistance from law enforcement when protecting yourself and others in the home.

The goal is always safety and accepting that there are times as a caregiver that you cannot keep everyone safe and need help.

Always seek help.

Call the Police!


8. I fear that my child with Reactive Attachment Disorder will severely harm herself to the point that effects are permanent.


If a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder doesn't have homicidal tendencies, she most likely has suicidal tendencies.

This is not the child's fault, but how the RAD brain works due to abuse and/or neglect the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder has received.

There is always a chance that a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder may harm herself.

My Child Wants to Kill Herself! Now What?


It is crucial to set up the home in a way that keeps the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder safe.

Safety goes so far when trying to form loving attachments.

If there comes a time when it becomes too difficult to keep the child with RAD safe in the home, a caregiver needs to take the child to receive an emergency mental health screening or other treatment outside of the home.

The child with Reactive Attachment Disorder may need to be hospitalized to receive the help she needs.

9. I fear that my child with Reactive Attachment Disorder will destroy our home in significant ways.


A child with Reactive Attachment Disorder often destroys property. 

This is not the child's fault, but how the RAD brain works.

A Day in the Life Parenting a Child with Reactive Attachment Disorder


Destruction can increase with age and strength.

There are many forms of destruction.

All are possible.

Repairs cost money.

Permanent damage to a home or other building in the community are possible.

When destruction becomes severe, it's important to call for help and document everything.

Even with this documentation though, most likely you, the caregiver will still be responsible for paying the cost of repairs etc.

10. I fear that insurance won't pay for the help my child with Reactive Attachment Disorder desperately needs.


There are moments when everything seems right in the world. 

Your child's team members are all on the same page.

Both you and your spouse agree.

A plan is in place and all will be well.

And then...

Insurance refuses to cover the plan.

Or, your child with Reactive Attachment Disorder is in treatment and it's not working.

It's Time to Have a Serious Talk about Residential Treatment Centers


The child with RAD is too dangerous to return to the home.

This is not the child's fault, but the RAD brain.

Yet, the insurance company refuses to pay for more treatment and the caregiver is left in an unsafe situation.

Both scenarios are real and do happen to so many families raising children with Reactive Attachment Disorder.

How to Cope with Fear as a Caregiver of a Child with Reactive Attachment Disorder


It's important to remember that fears are completely normal when raising a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder.

Fears are real and valid.

The goal is to use those fears and anxieties to motivate you to do the following.

  • Create a system of checks and balances for yourself as a caregiver.
  • Form back up plans for when everything goes wrong.
  • Seek help and support for yourself through mental health therapy.
  • Set boundaries for yourself regarding how you will advocate for your child.
  • Create a healthy support system for you and your child.
  • Prepare the home environment for safety, emergencies, and possible destruction of property.
  • Create safety plans and plan for next steps after they've been broken.
  • Set up a plan to save money for times when expenses are high.

As you plan and prepare for all that may come, your fears and anxiety will lessen and be replaced with confidence.

Confidence promotes love, attachment and healing for the RAD child, when possible.

Bad things ARE going to happen when you're raising a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder.

This is no one's fault, it just is.

Your role is to protect your family and yourself, and the child with RAD.

Be prepared.

It is possible to protect everyone, even in the worst of situations.

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